Single Season: God Told Me To Wait

Hey Lovelies! It's a new year and my first blog of 2019. I am so excited to be sharing what God has been doing in my life.

As some of you may know, I have been single since the end of 2016 and let me tell you, it has been one interesting journey. This journey has opened my eyes up and made me actually give my love life over to God. When it came to relationships, I wanted to be in control. I never really desired to invite God into them because I felt like He would always say no and I didn't want to hear that. Even if I did hear when He said no, I would still entertain that person. In the back of my mind, I would think God may change His mind or I just really wanted to see what would happen for myself. That quickly changed though when this new "love interest" popped up in my life.

This new "love interest" was unexpected. We have been friends for 4, going on 5 years now. When expressing our feelings and talking about the idea of being in a relationship, I always prayed afterwards. One day, I was really in prayer about our situation because first, I didn't want to ruin our relationship and second, I didn't want to waste his time or my time. So, as I prayed the presence of the Lord really showed up and in the middle of the prayer God said, "Wait." It was just as clear as day. It surprised me because I was looking for a direct yes or no. Instead, God told me to wait. Being that I have gotten into a relationship before without listening to God and knew the results, this time I wanted to listen. I didn't want to go through any unnecessary heartbreak. I didn't want him to go through any other heartbreaks either. So I had no other choice but to listen to God when He said wait.

I don't know how long the wait is going to be for me but I'm going to go through it. So far while I've been waiting, I have noticed several things about me that I still need to work on. I want to share just a few of those just in case someone else is going through the same thing.
Things I'm learning in my waiting season:

1. Be whole before you become someone's half

As I mentioned in previous blogs, for two years straight I was in relationships back to back. Unhealthy. I know. A relationship at that time was my focus and I felt like I couldn't truly live unless I was with someone. Well, that quickly went out of the window. Being able to reflect on my life and my past relationships, I noticed that I was nowhere near whole. Being whole is something that people don't really take as a priority but while I've been waiting, wholeness has been something I want to accomplish before anyone comes along. Not being whole can really ruin a relationship. You're looking for that certain person to fill the voids that only God can. Since I've been through that before, I don't want to have to experience it again. I want to make sure I'm who I need to be before my husband comes along. I want to make sure I'm whole and not holding onto things that will affect my relationship and eventually, my marriage. 

2. Am I who I desire? 

So, I'm pretty sure everyone has made a list about what they desire their spouse to be like. I've never really had a list but there were some things I desired my spouse or significant other to have. Once I actually wrote down what I desired, I realized there were some aspects I didn't have myself. Before anyone comes, I need to make sure I'm living up to what I want within my significant other. For example, I desire my significant other to be working in their purpose that God has set for them when we meet. Lately, I have NOT been working in my purpose. I've just been going day to day not asking or considering what God will have for me to do. So, while I'm asking for that and patiently waiting on God, I need to make sure I'm becoming that person as well. 

3. Work in your purpose 

One reason why I believe the wait is necessary is because you get to become closer to God. You have to look to Him and actually allow Him to come into your life and take over. At least, that's how it's been for me. And while waiting and becoming closer with God, I'm starting to see my purpose. Sometimes people feel like they don't know what to do while waiting. Most of the time, the wait is for God to get our attention and for us to start working in our purpose. It's for us to let God lead and we follow. As we're working in our purpose and allowing God to have control, our focus won't be on relationships and why are we single. It's giving us time to actually work and let God write our love story, instead of us jumping in occasionally trying to take over, like me. 

There are plenty of other things I've noticed while waiting but those are just the few that have stood out to me. If you're like me and in your waiting season, begin to write down what God reveals to you and work on it. Also, learn to be content with your singleness. It may not always be lovely, and you may feel alone but know God is preparing you and your significant other during this specific time. Focus on God and what He has for you to do. Then, out of nowhere, He'll send you your King. When you find yourself becoming lonely, pray and maybe write to your future boo. That's what I do. It helps time pass by and it also gives me a sense of peace. God usually gives you that when you include Him in your life. 

I pray that during your waiting season you stay content and connected with God. Believe He's writing your love story and He's going to blow your mind. Trust that God is going to give you exactly what you need. I love you and I'm praying for you! 

Stay Lovely Beautiful.